one car

We are officially a one-car family now.  I’ve been wanting to do it for a while, in order to simplify our lives and cut costs so we can live more comfortably on our income.

I am free to bring Alan to work in the morning any day I’d like, as long as I pick him up in the afternoon.  Turns out, I was too lazy to do that even a single time last week, so we were without a car during the day all week.

It was weird.  I had car withdrawal.  I felt panicky, lonely, trapped.  But because this is what always happens to me when I withdraw from something, I had the wisdom to know it would pass.  And it did.

This is the second car-less week, and so far it has been lovely.  We spent the past two whole days being home.  I felt free.  I just did my daily work, spent time with my girls, and leisurely went about the day.  I was able to make meals and keep on top of dishes and laundry with ease.  Because I had the whole day to do it, I was not stressed out (until dinnertime, at which I am always stressed out).

I should mention that I also do not have a computer during the day.  The computer I had before was my dad’s, and I decided to give it back to him so I could rid myself of its constant lure.  I wanted to spend my days more mindfully, more present and engaged in my daily life.   I use Alan’s laptop when he comes home from work.  So far it’s working swell, and I’ve spent more time reading books and doing creative things rather than running for the computer screen one hundred times per day.

I think most people would see these choices of deprivation.  But I see them differently.  I see them as choices of freedom–freedom to be with myself and my kids, freedom to tend to my work and what matters most to me, freedom from the lure of always going somewhere and doing something else.

Now let’s see how long I can keep up that positive outlook.

4 thoughts on “one car

  1. Awesome Lisa! We were a one car family for a year and it worked out nice because for 2-3 days a week my husband would ride-share with coworkers of his. Then his work started to pick up and I was without a car for most weeks I couldn’t take it so we bought another one. (He is too far out to drive to work when I needed a car.) It can be done and after a while it is just normal living. I need to try your trick with the computer, I moved my upstairs thinking that might help…we will see! Have a great Thanksgiving!

  2. I love it! I am a big fan of allowing stillness into my daily life. For me that often means no computer or cell phone after 8pm, no tv in the house (6 years now!), frequent morning meditations, and simple sitting or lying in the living room without music or a book/newspaper. A simple life allows one to see all sorts of new opportunities that would be missed if we were hustling and bustling. Good move!

  3. Good for you, Lisa. Your email has got me thinking….my kids and I could benefit if I didn’t have the lure of the computer. Now…do I have what it takes to follow through?

  4. We were a one car family for over a year and it was great. Jonah and I walked, took the bus, or the rail wherever we wanted to go. I would still do it but the bus and rail were just too much with a mobile 2.5 year old and a new baby so we caved and added a car back. We still don’t use the car much unless we really need to get somewhere we can’t walk. They sound like fine choices to me!

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