I got my answer.

When I have a dilemma, I lie in bed at night and think about it.  Sometimes I ask for guidance, and it will usually come right away or in a dream that night.

What my answer is to my kids’ arguing is this: first, let it be. Be calm and patient with their problems.  Focus on the positive.  Model good behavior and set a peaceful tone within the family.  Meditate and learn to manage my feelings of stress.  Remember that all kids in our society fight with each other.  It’s not the end of the world.

I am starting today.