Since I decided to stop writing in this blog in October 2015, my life has been largely undocumented. I’ve taken photos of my children and taken some family photos, saved some mementos, and become increasingly lost in the pleasures of daily life.
But, I realize that in 30 years we might want to remember what was going on in 2015-2017. So here goes, in a nutshell:
- In July 2015, we lost our cat Luna and adopted our dog, Penny. This is the same month I decided I needed to leave the church I was a part of.
- In September 2015, Mia and Anna were in 6th and 1st grades at their old school, respectively. We prepared to sell and sold our old house, bought a new one, and prepared to move. I took a full-time job, was interning and working on my graduate degree. We were stretched thinly. It was a very trying time for all of us.
- In November 2015, I finally mustered the courage to announce to Alan’s family and church friends that I was leaving the church.
- In December 2015, I finished all of my academic and internship requirements for my MA. I had still to write my thesis, which ended up taking 1 1/2 years to complete.
- In April 2016, we left our home of 13 years and moved into our new home. Alan gutted the kitchen and flooring throughout the house, and we lived without a kitchen for a while.
- In September 2016, Mia and Anna began 7th and 2nd grades at their new schools. They were devastated and cried for days. I continued to work at my full time job and going to school and felt increasingly drained and unhappy with our lifestyle. Alan was still working his job as usual. Our kitchen was complete.
- In December 2016, I quit my job, started a new one, and quit it after 12 days. I was unemployed until June 2017 and it was a very memorable time. There was a lot of healing, discovering and self-care that happened during that time.
- In October 2016, we lost our beloved cat, Jezzie, at the age of 19.
- In March 2017, the stars aligned and we found our new cat, Phoebe, who fills the void that Jezzie left in our hearts.
- I completed my Master’s thesis in April 2017 and received my MA the same month. I walked in my graduation ceremony in June 2017–the same month I accepted the job that I have now. I love the job.
- September 2017: Mia and Anna are in 8th and 3rd grades. They both love school. There were no tears this year. We sold our old car and bought a new one. I am studying for the national exam for marriage and family therapy. Alan is content in his job. We appreciate his summers off more than ever. We had the best summer this year that perhaps we’ve ever had–maybe because we finally appreciate what it means to have time off and time together.
- Anna loves ballet and swimming. She would do both all day if it were possible. Mia loves being creative and has a wonderful sense of humor. Mia writes songs, sings, and plays guitar. Anna plays eukelele and sings. We have family karaoke days where we all sing for hours. Mia and Anna are exceptional children: both are extremely kind, generous, and wonderful people. It is an absolute honor to be their mother.
- Alan and I have been married over 17 years now. Wow. I feel increasingly aware and grateful of the incredible gift of finding him, marrying him, and sharing my life with him.
- I took lots of photos and video of the above events and many more events, and I hope someday to get all of these organized.