First day of pre-school!

Anna has been wanting to go to preschool since she was about 2 years old.  She finally got her wish, and today was the first day! The whole thing was just so cute, from the way she dressed, signed her name, started playing right away, put her drawings into the ice cream bucket to bring home at the end of the preschool day, and waited for us to pick her up at the door with her little classmates.

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xoxo

A week of firsts

This week was Mia’s first day of 4th grade and Anna’s first day of swimming lessons.  They are both into leopard print now, as the pictures show.

Anna is a little skittish about putting her face in the water, but brave enough to keep up with the lessons.  I think she might even feel a little proud of herself, too.

Mia loved her first day at school.

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xoxo

Anna rides a bike!

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Alan took Anna out the other night and ended up teaching her how to ride a bike.  She learned immediately.  She’s been using a balance bike for a while, so she had the balance thing down already.  Seeing her riding on the sidewalk on a tiny bike with her tiny legs going so fast was one of the CUTEST things I have ever seen.  LOVE.

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Anna was just so happy and proud, along with the rest of us.  She wanted to call “everybody” to share her exciting news, and that is just what she did.  She also decided that we would celebrate by going out for ice cream, or more specifically: “chocolate ice cream, ice cream cone, vanilla ice cream.”

I should note that this sweet little bike was custom painted and designed by Alan.  I can’t remember how it looked originally, but it looks pretty cute now.

Here is the video of the momentous occasion.

When it hurts

We have all experienced trauma of varying degrees.  Depending on our sensitivity levels, our coping mechanisms, and our awareness, these traumas affect each of us in unique ways. In some, they cause us to attract partners that hurt us, turn us into addicts of drugs, work or exercise, give us health problems, or make us anxious or depressed. Wherever there is trauma within us, there is also a little wounded child.

The more we nurture and acknowledge our wounded inner child, the less she will hurt.  Although she lives in the past, she is hurt in the present and very much shapes our lives in the “now”.   She can cause us to destroy our lives and run from relationships, or she can help us grow and become magnificent beings.

We expect those closest to us to understand our “soft spots”–our trauma and this little wounded child–and avoid hurting her and ever “going there”.  But it happens.  Perhaps it is impossible to avoid being hurt, and perhaps the hurt happens with a purpose.  Lessons tend to repeat themselves until they are fully understood.

If we actively work on healing the inner wounded child, each time she is hurt, we can rebound more quickly and be better able to judge the situation with logic.  Prescription or other drugs are not healing mechanisms, but rather they give us escape and a prolonging of our difficulties. To heal the inner wounded child, we have to look her in the eye.

When the primal self or inner wounded child takes over and goes into self-defense, our minds become irrational and we strike back, withdraw, or turn to destructive patterns.  This is the state in which we have the choice of walking the path of healing or the path of of destruction.  Choosing the path of healing is the only way to a whole and happy life.

Here is an excellent piece on healing the inner wounded child.

Ending the cycle of attracting drama

“When you are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.” –Eckhart Tolle

For as long as I can remember, I have been surrounded by drama. For a long time, I thought this was normal and just the way life was…until I woke up and took note.  Some people do not live lives of drama.  Some people are peaceful.  And it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with their families of origin, things beyond their control, their jobs or coworkers, or with luck. It has to do with them.  People who are not surrounded by drama are peaceful people; they don’t let drama or chaos stick to them.  They let things go and move on.

Okay, so what does this mean about my life? Here is my latest breakthrough:

In all of the drama-filled relationships and situations I have had in my life, there is one common denominator: ME.

Unintentionally, I have maintained the pattern of drama in my life by the way I respond to events and people, the way I think, the way I hang on to the past, and as a result, because of what I attract.  I am the drama, people! It is me! I have reacted with emotion without thinking of the consequences. I have felt the need to respond and react to too much.  I have taken too much to heart, cared too much, thought too much, fought too much, said too much, cursed too much, lived too much in the past or in the future, and mostly, neglected the here and now. And let me tell you, it has been exhausting.

Simply being aware of this pattern has already changed many aspects of my life.  Now that I am working on it at a more conscious level, I am looking forward to inviting even more peaceful situations and relationships into my life–and to not be a dramatic component to your life, dear reader.

This post opened my eyes to this topic, and I think I will use it to help guide me in this new and exciting venture. Check it out; maybe it will help you, too.